So I've bidden adieu to a few friends already, more would be leaving over the next few months. While most have graduated, are carrying on to live their lives on their own, make their choices, I'm a student with three more years of school left.
Not that I haven't said a fair share of good-byes earlier, but this time, it has a more finality in it. Somehow, it feels more grown up than when I wished a farewell to a few friends who went off to college right after high school. This time it feels like a part of me is going away and not sure if I'm going to get it back again.
Just bidding everyone adieu made me think about the word "Goodbye". Yes, it has a sense of finality in it. Yes, everyone seems to be scattered around. The people you grew up with aren't around as often anymore. And for someone like me who doesn't get close to anyone as easily, it's harder. It's a feeling of growing up and leaving the childhood behind. One by one, each tie with is breaking too, as every friend moves out. You are stuck with new people to celebrate your birthday with, new people to trust yourself with, new people to be a part of your life. Yes, farewells are hard but if we had a chance, would we want to be in a place where we had no one to say good bye too?
I see everyone attaching these deep meanings to one word, making it sound like a bad thing, something hurtful. But just because its emotional doesn't necessarily mean its bad and for the worst, right? So what if good-byes are hard, bidding farewell to a friend every week makes you cry, wishing them luck for their new lives makes it seem like they are moving on?
What we fail to realize is that they are moving on, not from us but from their childhood. They are going to work, to study further, to live on their own but that doesn't mean that people back home don't fit into their lives anymore. Goodbyes are as final and as temporary as you want them to be and if you ask me, I would choose giving an old friend a farewell over being in a place, so alone, where I don't have a single opportunity to say goodbye.
Goodbyes are hard but your journey with those people makes the farewell worth it. To each one of the people in my life, who have left or are leaving, I wish you all the best in your life and if I failed to send you a sappy message, this is my way of saying I will miss you. :)
Not that I haven't said a fair share of good-byes earlier, but this time, it has a more finality in it. Somehow, it feels more grown up than when I wished a farewell to a few friends who went off to college right after high school. This time it feels like a part of me is going away and not sure if I'm going to get it back again.
Just bidding everyone adieu made me think about the word "Goodbye". Yes, it has a sense of finality in it. Yes, everyone seems to be scattered around. The people you grew up with aren't around as often anymore. And for someone like me who doesn't get close to anyone as easily, it's harder. It's a feeling of growing up and leaving the childhood behind. One by one, each tie with is breaking too, as every friend moves out. You are stuck with new people to celebrate your birthday with, new people to trust yourself with, new people to be a part of your life. Yes, farewells are hard but if we had a chance, would we want to be in a place where we had no one to say good bye too?
I see everyone attaching these deep meanings to one word, making it sound like a bad thing, something hurtful. But just because its emotional doesn't necessarily mean its bad and for the worst, right? So what if good-byes are hard, bidding farewell to a friend every week makes you cry, wishing them luck for their new lives makes it seem like they are moving on?
What we fail to realize is that they are moving on, not from us but from their childhood. They are going to work, to study further, to live on their own but that doesn't mean that people back home don't fit into their lives anymore. Goodbyes are as final and as temporary as you want them to be and if you ask me, I would choose giving an old friend a farewell over being in a place, so alone, where I don't have a single opportunity to say goodbye.
Goodbyes are hard but your journey with those people makes the farewell worth it. To each one of the people in my life, who have left or are leaving, I wish you all the best in your life and if I failed to send you a sappy message, this is my way of saying I will miss you. :)
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