I've heard more lets-break-up-its-not-working-out stories in the last few weeks than ever before. All of a sudden its like the universe is acting against the happy people. But well, we'll never really figure out the way universe works but we do know how the heart-broken's would.
Break ups are always messy. The longer the relationship, the harder it is to get over it. And you know what sucks more than that? Being dumped. One moment you are all determined to make it work but the other asshole just decides for you that its not working out anymore. So yes, the worse is to handle a recently dumped broken heart. How do we deal with that? Well, here are a few tips that might be helpful to cheer up a broken heart around you.
Break ups are always messy. The longer the relationship, the harder it is to get over it. And you know what sucks more than that? Being dumped. One moment you are all determined to make it work but the other asshole just decides for you that its not working out anymore. So yes, the worse is to handle a recently dumped broken heart. How do we deal with that? Well, here are a few tips that might be helpful to cheer up a broken heart around you.
1. Leave them alone.
Immediately after the break, a person is going through major emotional upheaval, they need time to sort things out and reset their priorities and get back their life on track. So yes, if they ask you to leave them alone for a while give them that time. When they are ready they'll probably call you up themselves to share it and to make it clear that they need someone.
Immediately after the break, a person is going through major emotional upheaval, they need time to sort things out and reset their priorities and get back their life on track. So yes, if they ask you to leave them alone for a while give them that time. When they are ready they'll probably call you up themselves to share it and to make it clear that they need someone.
2. Ice cream.
Give them ice cream. Like get them a bloody tub that is huge enough to have ice cream supply for the next 10 days. The heart knows not of the gender, all it knows is the good feeling after eating ice cream. So its a guy friend or a girl friend, doesn't matter ice makes everyone feel better. And mark my words, in times of grave depression, ice cream works better than chocolates.
Give them ice cream. Like get them a bloody tub that is huge enough to have ice cream supply for the next 10 days. The heart knows not of the gender, all it knows is the good feeling after eating ice cream. So its a guy friend or a girl friend, doesn't matter ice makes everyone feel better. And mark my words, in times of grave depression, ice cream works better than chocolates.
3. Treat them normally.
After the break up, people wanna stay alone. But we all know that staying alone will do nothing but just make them sad. But what makes it worse is when you are around them and you treat them like they just told you that they have cancer. Don't give them the overly concerned looks. Your concern should be shown with the help of your actions, not your eyes. Remember that.
4. Talking about it.
Do NOT ask them to talk about it. Thats a rookie mistake. They need to get over it and repeating the story of their worst nightmare isn't the best way to start the getting-over-process. If they want to talk about it, they will, on their own. Trust me.
And while we're at it, don't even keep on asking them how they feel. It won't take a rocket scientist to figure out how they are feeling right after being dumped.
5. Sing them "Fix You"
Everyone is a coldplay fan. There is no song better to make them realise that you will fix them and you'll be with them to pick them up from the lowest point that they feel there at. And if your voice sucks, it'll just add to the charm, it'll make them laugh.
5. Sing them "Fix You"
Everyone is a coldplay fan. There is no song better to make them realise that you will fix them and you'll be with them to pick them up from the lowest point that they feel there at. And if your voice sucks, it'll just add to the charm, it'll make them laugh.
6. Control over the phone.
Sad, desperate take-me-back calls are the worst and they'll be embarrassed after they get over it. So take their phone away from them if its post paid or blow up the balance in their phone so that they don't beg that rat bastard to take them back.
Also, delete the number for them if they haven't already. Yes, they'll put it back probably but after a while they'll be tired of saving and checking the bastard's whatsapp status and won't probably message either.
7. Alcohol.
Yes, alcohol is not the answer. It isn't. But if someone has gone through an emotional blow, they deserve one night of that awesome light headed feeling. They deserve that much. So give them a break from their misery, open the bottles, get the shot glasses, let them free and take them to a karaoke or a party so that they can probably enjoy.
8. Gender biased remedy.
So if its a girl friend who just got dumped, take her to the market and force her to shop and insist to pay for the one of the things she picks up. If not that then take her to the market and get her something yourself that you think she would like, a top, earrings, bag, clutch, whatever.
If its a guy, give him your collection of porn. Really. Its better than them sleeping around with different chicks or over thinking the break up and getting sadder. And lets face it, porn is something guys love.
9. Hugs.
The best remedy ever. After being dumped all that a person automatically gets into the self-doubt-mode. They think there is something wrong with them. No amount of words is going to make them feel better. So give them a hug. Its the best way to tell them that they are wanted.
We all know the crap about how a broken heart is hard to mend and and how its upto the person who is going through all this to get over it. But one of the other truths in life is that the best friends play a major role in it. I mean yes, you'd always have your "better-halves" breaking your heart but its the friends who are your real forevers :)
